初次見面的老外跟你說(shuō)了句"How do you do", 估計(jì)多數(shù)人都會(huì)美滋滋地搬出學(xué)校教的那套，回敬一句"How do you do"。可英美人士卻覺得你的回答有點(diǎn)買帽子當(dāng)鞋穿--不對(duì)頭。因?yàn)樗麄儠?huì)覺得對(duì)話似乎沒有得到回應(yīng)，好像你并不高興見到他一樣。所以，當(dāng)別人說(shuō)"How do you do"的時(shí)候，你最好改答"Nice to meet you"或者"It"s a pleasure to meet you"。

怎么樣，是不是覺得上面的小技巧還有點(diǎn)用處?那么，你知道怎么掌控好一個(gè)初次見面的開場(chǎng)白嗎?還有誰(shuí)先開口，說(shuō)什么，怎樣繼續(xù)話題?要不要握手呢?別著急，我現(xiàn)在就告訴大家一些社交小技巧。它們可以讓你在不同的場(chǎng)合游刃有余，溝通無(wú)極限。

先來(lái)看一段Jake和Debbie之間的對(duì)話吧。大姑娘上花轎--頭一回，這兩個(gè)大一新生在校園里初次碰面了。

JAKE: Hi! My name is Jake. We haven"t met before, have we?

DEBBIE: No, we haven"t! My name is Debbie.

JAKE: Nice to meet you, Debbie!

DEBBIE: Nice to meet you, too, Jake.

JAKE: Are you a new student?

DEBBIE: Yes, I am. What about you?

JAKE: Yeah, me too!

JAKE: What"re you studying here?

DEBBIE: Journalism. I want to be a journalist. What about you?

JAKE: I"m doing law. But I"m thinking of doing business studies instead.

DEBBIE: Do they allow you to change?

見機(jī)行事，見什么人說(shuō)什么話。Jake和Debbie之間的對(duì)話適用于什么場(chǎng)合呢?

他們的對(duì)話適用于非正式場(chǎng)合。

因?yàn)椋?/p>

1 Jake使用了Hi這個(gè)問(wèn)候詞。這個(gè)詞適用于比較隨意的場(chǎng)合或者正式場(chǎng)合下彼此非常熟識(shí)的人之間。

2 Jake和Debbie在介紹自己和稱呼對(duì)方的時(shí)候都在用彼此名字的第一個(gè)字。如果兩人第一次見面就直接用名字的第一個(gè)字相互稱呼，這就暗示他們想讓接下來(lái)的談話無(wú)拘無(wú)束，閑散自在一些。

3 兩個(gè)人談話的語(yǔ)氣和內(nèi)容都顯得輕松，隨意。

再來(lái)看一段James Taylor和Wang Dong之間的對(duì)話。James Taylor是AEC Advertising 的總裁，Wang Dong是China Bright Advertising Company 外事處的秘書。她負(fù)責(zé)到機(jī)場(chǎng)去接從未謀面的James Taylor。

Wang Dong: Good morning. Are you James Taylor?

James Taylor: Yes, and ...

Wang Dong: Welcome to Beijing, President Taylor. I"m Wang Dong, the secretary of the foreign affairs office from China Bright Advertising Company. Please call me Wang.

James Taylor: Oh, nice to meet you, Wang.

Wang Dong: Nice to meet you, too. How was the flight?

James Taylor: It was OK, though I feel a bit tired.

Wang Dong: Would you like me to help you with the luggage?

James Taylor: Oh, thank you.

Wang Dong: Please follow me to the gate. The company car is waiting for you outside.

大家已經(jīng)意識(shí)到了吧，這段對(duì)話適用于正式的社交場(chǎng)合。

1 二個(gè)人用 Nice to meet you 相互問(wèn)候。

2 Wang Dong 在自我介紹的時(shí)候不僅說(shuō)了自己的姓名，還說(shuō)了自己的職務(wù)和此行的身份。

3 Wang Dong 稱呼對(duì)方為President Taylor，這是一種正式的稱呼，而不是用Mr. James或者James。

4 Wang Dong 的用語(yǔ)十分禮貌，恭敬。

說(shuō)到這里，讓我們來(lái)作個(gè)初次見面問(wèn)候用語(yǔ)的小結(jié)吧。

Brief greetings:

-- Hi! (for informal situation)

-- Hello! (for informal situation)

-- Hullo! (for informal situation)

-- Good morning/afternoon/evening. (for more formal situation)

Extended greetings at the first meeting:

-- Nice to meet you. (-- Nice to meet you, too.)

-- How do you do! (--Nice to meet you.) (for more formal situation)

附：幾個(gè)實(shí)用的句子

1. Nice to meet you. 很高興認(rèn)識(shí)你。

二個(gè)素不認(rèn)識(shí)的老美見面打招呼的方式很簡(jiǎn)單，就是一個(gè)人先說(shuō)"Nice to meet you"， 另一個(gè)人說(shuō) "Nice to meet you, too"，然后相互握手。但人多的時(shí)候, 你不可能一個(gè)一個(gè)說(shuō) "Nice to meet you"，這時(shí)簡(jiǎn)單說(shuō)"Hi" 就可以了，但這么說(shuō)不適用于比較正式的場(chǎng)合。

2. Give me a hug.給我一個(gè)擁抱吧。

如果兩個(gè)人相識(shí)已久，見面再說(shuō)"Nice to meet you" 反而顯得有點(diǎn)見外。這時(shí)候通常問(wèn)候一句 "How are you doing" 或者 "What"s up" 比較好一些。如果兩個(gè)人還是不錯(cuò)的朋友，就會(huì)彼此擁抱一下。當(dāng)然啦，擁抱之前不一定要說(shuō) "Give me a hug"，只要看到人家張開雙手，你就可以迎上去擁抱啦。

3. Do you want to exchange numbers? 你想不想交換電話呢?

如果是學(xué)生的社交場(chǎng)合，要不要名片就不是那么重要了。這時(shí)你可以嘗試跟對(duì)方交換電話號(hào)碼。你可以說(shuō) "Do you want to exchange numbers" 或是直截了當(dāng)要對(duì)方的電話 "Could I have your phone number"。當(dāng)然，第一次見面就要對(duì)方電話感覺好像怪怪的，所以你也可以跟對(duì)方要 E-mail address 或是 ICQ number?？傊裁淳透鶕?jù)當(dāng)時(shí)的情況和你個(gè)人的企圖來(lái)定了。